Sweet Confidence

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One of the biggest questions that all women ask (including myself from time to time) is what does it take to attract a man and keep him attracted?

Of course, we all know that there is a great level of physical attraction that gets a man interested (at least at first) but in order to keep a man’s interest, a woman still has to send the right “vibe” and the right signals to a man.

Well, I believe there is enough information to know that men are picky when it comes to dating. If you are single and out there dating, I am sure you are very aware of just how choosy men are.

Women are particular too, but right now I am going to talk about what attracts men:

Usually, men have an idea in their head of the type of woman to whom they are attracted, and either you fit the mold or you don’t. However, a lot of times a man will fall for a girl who is outside of his wheelhouse. This happens much more often than not. How many weddings have we attended and we sit and say to ourselves I did not think she was his type? How did she get him?

Well for starters it means the following traits can draw a man to you:

  1. Being flirtatious: Not sleazy, just fun. Learn how to “smeyes” — smile with your eyes.
  2. Being  sexy: Remember, the word sexy has no real definition these days — the key ingredient is that you FEEL sexy and then he senses it
  3. Being feminine:  Keep in mind that if a man wanted to be with a man, he would be. So let that feminine energy out and draw him in…
  4. Be supportive: Show your appreciation to him and encourage him.  Remember, if a man does not feel needed in your life he will not continue to build attraction to you
  5. Be cool and give him space: Allow him to have the guys night out for example and mean it. (Men can tell when we are not sincere)

I can list so many more things but I want to share the number one quality men find irresistible and very attractive. Drum roll….



Men love women who have that “je ne sais quoi,” that little intangible confidence that makes them untouchable, yet so desirable all at once.

Confidence creates the mindset of being a high valued woman. You will not tolerate disrespect, neglect, dishonesty, or abuse. Confident women know their worth and they become irreplaceable. They do not try to force or control a man. No crying, no begging, no nagging, and definitely no chasing, instead a Confident woman focuses on being the best version of herself and in doing so she inspires a man to be the best version of himself. (Sound familiar?  Remember my blog called “Transformation”, published on September 12, 2018, I discuss this in great detail)

Ladies, trust me, I hear this over and over again from men in so many ways: looks can hook a guy but what really hooks him is your Confidence.  

Men crave a confident woman who is comfortable in her own skin because she can provide the mental challenge he desires. She wants a man but does not need a man and that keeps him on his toes. She focuses on self-development and invests in her own happiness.

I recently attended a party for a very good friend of mine and I was seated next to a gentleman who I had met before and he and I eased into a nice conversation.

A few days after the party, my friend contacted me as the gentleman I was seated next to wanted my number and to connect with me on a more personal level. (Of course, I said yes!)

During my first lengthy conversation with this gentleman, one of the things he told me that attracted him to me was my Sweet Confidence.

He liked the vibe that I gave off as a woman who was nice and also self-assured. His compliment made my heart sing: I gave him a big, big, thanks for telling me that because that is exactly the vibe I want to deliver to men in order to attract the right man into my life.

Well, I just made a new friend and indeed, I am still on the Journey to remaining a “Keeper”, stay tuned…

Just Keeping it 100,


– Stephanie


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