Gaddis Farmer is the first man I knew in my life.
It’s because of the man he is and the example he set, that I am able to love men with deep passion and appreciation.
I as well as my sister have always both been “Daddy’s Girl”, and you know what, I love it. I did not enter the world through his body, but I entered the world through his heart. The bond we shared is unlike any other connection.
I feel so blessed to have had Gaddis Farmer as my father and I’m thankful for the wonderful life he lived and gave me.
My list of gratitude is endless:
- Thank you for falling madly in love with Rosemary Moorehead and marrying her 53 years ago.
- Thank you for showing me that news headlines are not the norm; men can actually love women faithfully and unconditionally – for a lifetime.
- Thank you for knowing you wanted to be a father.
- Thank you for having the vision to see the importance of education by working and earning your degree while you were raising a family. You also paid for my mother, sister and I to have an education and we all finished college. Your vision was crystal clear: for my mother you wanted her to be able to take care of herself and your daughters if anything happened to you while I was growing up. You wanted my sister and I to be able to have options and be independent adults.
- Thank you for providing me with a never-ending sense of physical safety and emotional security whenever I was with you.
- Thank you for your affection which included heartfelt hugs and kisses.
- Thank you for crying in front of me when I was 13 years old when my 15 year old cousin died from liver cancer who was a wonderful nephew to you.
- Thank you for teaching me how to play football and taking me to Rams football games, USC football games, UCLA football games, because you were ok with teaching your daughters about football and taking them to games was a joy to you.
- Thank you for leaving work early to watch me in school events and activities.
- Thank you for teaching me the importance of health and exercise.
- Thank you for teaching me the significance of “knowing my audience”, and when appropriate, the power of dropping a well-enunciated f-bomb in proper company.
- Thank you for always telling me I am beautiful.
- Thank you for teaching me the importance of humility, and the remarkable power of emotional and financial generosity.
- Thank you for teaching me about politics and political parties. Thank you for helping me understand why voting is important.
- Thank you for never lying to me.
- Thank you for showing me that a person’s sexual orientation is part of their soul and should never affect the love you have for them.
- Thank you for seeing the importance of taking your family on vacations and providing me with wonderful memories of our travels around the world.
- Thank you for showing me how to cook, change an oil filter, and iron a shirt.
- Thank you for showing me what is means to be a good man, a great teacher, an extraordinary husband, and an outstanding father for my entire life.
A few days before you passed away, you told me that you wanted me to live my best life possible and Dad I will because you taught me so well.
I love you, Dad and will miss you.
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