Mother’s Day for all of us here in America is always the second Sunday in the month of May. It actually is the biggest spending day behind the holidays, in fact, it’s even bigger than Valentine’s Day.
I recall in many instances in recent years going to the grocery store on Mother’s Day Weekend and seeing all of the men there buying out the flowers. I can also recall in recent years driving past cemeteries and seeing a backlog of cars waiting to go in as many people were planting flowers on grave sites for their dearly departed mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, etc. I won’t even mention restaurants as restaurants start to get packed and booked even on Friday and Saturday during Mother’s Day weekend. It’s almost impossible to get a reservation anywhere and I actually stopped going out to restaurants on Mother’s Day Weekend because of the crowds.
One of the best Mother’s Days that I had was when I got to spend some quality time with my mother, my grandmother and one of my aunts and several cousins at the family home…It wasn’t so much about the gift exchange as it was really about the exchange of quality time and just seeing everyone in a happy wonderful mood.
My mother is still living and because she is in decent health, I can still do things with her and she can still look after herself. She really does not like to receive a lot of gifts and flowers and things of that nature, she prefers having quality time and doing something fun. Many of my friends have mothers who are deceased and Mother’s Day is not the same for them. Both of my grandmothers and most of my aunts are deceased as well so I do empathize with anyone who can no longer celebrate Mother’s Day.
I have many lady friends who are mothers and also are grandmother’s and they have wonderful celebrations. I do not have children but I am glad to say that I feel lots of love and support on Mother’s Day. Here is why:
One of my dearest friends sent me a card on Mother’s Day a couple of years ago and the inscription was as follows:
You are NOT a Mother because you have carried baby or given birth to one.
You are a Mother because you ARE the most outstanding:
Celebrating you this Mothering Sunday.
May generations be blessed through you!
You can imagine how wonderful these words made me feel…I am fortunate to be surrounded by friends and family who allow me to share time with their children. I have been a mentor to many students at the high school and college level. I also have mentored young people at my job.
The world is filled with mothers. A mother selflessly gives and helps those around them. She nurtures children. She helps those around her deal with difficult things. A mother can be a teacher, aunt, or friend. Mothering has less to do with having children and more to do with how you treat the children in your life.
So I say that we should redefine what the word “mother” means. It can mean a stepmother doing all she can for a child she didn’t give birth to or a teacher who worries about and helps students in her class.
As you redefine the word “mother,” the focus on Mother’s Day changes from honoring women with children to honoring all women. Which in my opinion is the way it should be.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the women in the world!
Just Keeping it 💯,
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